do we give up too quickly?

As I laid in my bed, my never ending thoughts ran continuously through my mind. Thoughts about what I wish to do tomorrow and the weekend, thoughts on my goals and aspirations, thoughts on my treasured family and friends and thoughts on my relationship- these thoughts sprung me out of bed immediately to share with you all a post.

I'm 19 years old and definitely no relationship guru. But over the past three years have learned a thing or two... maybe few. And lucky for me, I have a strong support system from my friends and family who help through and are always there when times get tough.

I think it's important for someone so young to realise that "leaving straight away" isn't always the best option when things get rocky. Sometimes couples do fight. Sometimes mean and hurtful things are said. Sometimes actions speak louder than words and in turn, hurt even deeper. But it's important to realise a fight about not being able to do a park in a tight spot after 20 minutes of trying doesn't mean pack your bags and run. 

Don't get me wrong, there are times when I have claimed, "It's over." As I am sure so many of you have too. But sometimes in a relationship it takes time (and possibly throwing your phone to that person- multiple times) to cool off the steam. It also takes a heck of alot of hard work. So do we give up too quickly?

Yet, other times, things change. People change. People become deceiving, conniving figures who aren't whom they made out to be. And this is when you stop and eject. Eject yourself from the swallowing monster of lies, jealousy and insecurities. I don't know about you but I am a sucker for all of the romance, the lust, the love and the passion- it's unrealistic I know. Call me high maintenance or whatever. That's just me. 

And we are all aware of the honeymoon phase. The phase where it's all lovey dovey kisses, non-stop messages, wanting-to-spend every single second of the day with your man. Then one day. The flowers stop arriving. The text messages become less frequent. And instead you come home to your partner's leftovers on the sink and dirty clothes on the floor, or worse. Alone. Rage. 


Being so young it's important to realise not to rush into things. That's why you have the rest of your life? Live in the now; cherish and appreciate what you do have. Learn from your mistakes and use your successes to motivate you even further. 

And being so young means it's still not too late to let go. It's not too late to let go of your fears, your insecurities and those who pull you down. You are all too young and beautiful to be anyone's "bitch"  and simply deserve and are worthy of the best. Don't be afraid to be greedy, to be selfish and learn to say no. Your Prince Charming or Jacob Black is out there. Waiting for you.

Yes at the end of the day it's just a fight. But at the end of the day, you need to ask yourself. Do you love this person for the right reasons? Do the hard times make it all worth it? Will slamming the door behind you be something that you regret or be the best decision of your life? 

All I'm saying to you is live in the now. Live with passion and positivity. Be aware of your self-worth. Treat others the way you wish to be treated. Don't be afraid to let go- it may hurt but turns out it could also be the best thing you could have ever done. And always, always listen to your gut instincts. 90% of the time, your judgement is always right- benefits of being a female.

And finally, love like you have never been hurt. I can assure you it is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world, even though at times you may cry a river. Or two. There just comes a point when you need to realise who is truly worth it. 

That's enough of my rambling. Enjoy your sleep lovers.

Gros bisous, 

wwndie xx