This post goes out to any girl who is currently dealing or has dealt with a heartbreak. We all know the feeling. Our world suddenly stops spinning. Our feelings are numb. Our heart becomes cold. Dealing with it is hardly easy-and mending your broken heart is even more difficult. All you want to do is seclude yourself from everything, immerse yourself in an empty void of loneliness parallel to the one you feel in your heart. Numbing and forgetting all of your feelings and emotions seems the only way to forget- but instead you are forcing yourself to stay where you are and preventing yourself and your heart, to move on.
Relax. It's only human to feel these emotions. To feel the hurt, the betrayal, to scream, to cry yourself to sleep, to be angry. At the end of the day, these are all healthy human emotions.But as strange as it seems, that hurt helps you grow, essentially allowing yourself to become a stronger person. Of course there is that breakup and heartbreak that could potentially impact someone in a negative way- depending on the level of severity and magnitude of the situation that person has faced. But always remember, never do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset. It may seem the end of the world, but 5 years from now, this was just another chapter of your life.
It is more often however that a heartbreak acts as a positive impact upon someone. The pain is only temporarily, part of the growing process; the rest itself is self realisation, finding that sense of happiness on your own, and indulging in that single status.
So to anyone who is currently sick of love songs and of feeling blue- here are a few helpful tips- derived from personal experiences of course- to feel some sense of happy emotion again.
[+] Immerse yourself not in loneliness but with those whom you love. We are all afraid of being alone. That feeling of rejection and neglection. I can guarantee you, throughout the breakup you will find your support system is stronger than ever before. Your family, your friends, especially your girls. They have always and will always be there for you no matter what. Sounds cliche, but they will be the first to be by your side. Offering their support and love- so let them.
[+] Indulge. Sure gluttony is bad, and comfort food isn't always the best way to relieve your sadness, but there is nothing wrong with a little self-indulgence. Pampering yourself allows you to some me time and in turn, love yourself again. That's right. The first person whom you are to learn to love is yourself. As conceited and selfish as it sounds, it is the only way you will realise that you no longer need that "special someone" to make you feel ... special. Go out and buy yourself that box of chocolates or that perfume or that ring. Why not?. Repeat after me, I LOVE ME.
[+] Retail therapy. Always works. I guess you could call it indulgence sans the calories. Healthier for you and maybe not so much for the wallet but believe me does it work?. Yes it does take a little pampering and self treating to feel proud and beautiful again. Whether it be a new lipstick, a hot pair of empowering pumps. Like they say, fake it til you make it. If you feel good from the outside, you'll smile that reflection in the mirror and eventually start genuinely feeling good yourself. Start from the outside in. Break that outer shell and through that barrier you built. And by chipping away slowly you will realise what it's like to love oneself and you will in turn re-learn who you are. Who you have become.[+] Exercise. Your body loves endorphins and endorphins love you. Need I say more? It will clear your body, mind and soul. Redirect your energy from sadness to something positive. You will no doubt feel better about yourself even after half an hour of exercise- whether it be gym, a brisk walk or yoga. Put your headphones in, block the world, and pump it. Those negative feelings will magically disappear and all you will feel is yourself immersed in the music. An extra bonus: you will look and feel absolutely fantastic!
[+] Focus. Like exercise, put your energy towards something positive. Whether it be immersing yourself in a different world whilst reading a novel. Painting, dancing, even writing. Do what it is you love. Get distracted. But remain focused on your dreams, passion and aspirations. They belong to you and no one, can ever take them away from you. Dream big, and achieve even bigger. Never let someone tell you you're no good- at the end of the day, they are no better! You are powerful beyond measure.
[+] Keep the memories. As much as we want to forget, we will never forget those deep, powerful quite wonderful emotions you felt. You let your guard down and opened up to someone else- it's a difficult feat in itself. But rather than dwell on the relationship's last dwindling moments, remember, and celebrate the beginning and all the happiness throughout. The happiest moments. The butterflies you felt on your first date, your first kiss, and even the times you spent rolling around in the grass or stuffing your face silly on movie date nights without a care in the world. These are the moments that count and these are memories you cherish forever. They are the moments that have made you who you are now. Things happen. You live. Life changes. You learn. You live a little more. It's the most precious thing we all have. Cherish it forever.
Gros bisous,
wwndie xxx
